Nothing puts me off as much as negativity and pessimism from interactions with people. Such people drain me of energy so quickly that I wish with all my heart that I had not even interacted with them in the first place. The length of the interaction is immaterial. A couple of minutes is all it takes sometimes for me to get super pissed off. I have to will myself to let the negativity in through one ear and right out through the other. Why do people do this to others? Granted different people have different things going on in their lives, and granted that different people have different ways of dealing with their issues. But how can they assume that being negative with others, about others, and to others will help them in any possible way???? Nothing comes out of being negative people!!
And just to clarify - there is a difference between having a bad day or a bad week, and letting off steam or looking for solutions and help AND complaining and whining all the time. OK, so life is not fair (if the problem is really "life" and not all the choices you made in the first place). But really, is being negative all the time going to get you anything?
Of course, at the other extreme are people who are striving every second to be optimistic. Its pathetic to see the forced cheer, false positivism, and fake enthusiasm spewing forth. Ask them how they have been, and the answer is a loud, over-amplified "FANTASTIC". Which is also fine once in a while, but not every single time, every single day. These people are always "on top of things", "having a great day", or "kicking butt" at whatever they are doing. Come on, seriously?? Just because they are constantly announcing how great they are, does not at ALL mean that they are.
I for one, do not like spending too much time with either category. All of us have to be more balanced. Be more positive in your thoughts and actions. But throw in a generous doses of reality into life's issues. And for heaven's sake, do not be negative all the time - with yourself or with others. Because pretty soon, they will not want you to bring them down every time you talk to them. And they will just find reasons to stay out of your way.
And just to clarify - there is a difference between having a bad day or a bad week, and letting off steam or looking for solutions and help AND complaining and whining all the time. OK, so life is not fair (if the problem is really "life" and not all the choices you made in the first place). But really, is being negative all the time going to get you anything?
Of course, at the other extreme are people who are striving every second to be optimistic. Its pathetic to see the forced cheer, false positivism, and fake enthusiasm spewing forth. Ask them how they have been, and the answer is a loud, over-amplified "FANTASTIC". Which is also fine once in a while, but not every single time, every single day. These people are always "on top of things", "having a great day", or "kicking butt" at whatever they are doing. Come on, seriously?? Just because they are constantly announcing how great they are, does not at ALL mean that they are.
I for one, do not like spending too much time with either category. All of us have to be more balanced. Be more positive in your thoughts and actions. But throw in a generous doses of reality into life's issues. And for heaven's sake, do not be negative all the time - with yourself or with others. Because pretty soon, they will not want you to bring them down every time you talk to them. And they will just find reasons to stay out of your way.
2 comments:
:-) Shaant Gada Dhaari Bheen Shaant! But on a serious note you are right. I would rather hang around with "Fantastic 4" than "Negative folks!"
Sometimes when I think about it, I realize some of these folks have never lived or realized otherwise and hence do not know maybe. Anyways...
hahaha....yeah, it was just a random rant because of some recent frustrations with people i have to associate with around here and who do this kind of irritating thing..:-)
its true...some people just live like this all the time. really dont know what to say to them!
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