The one thing I have realized is an absolute truth is that you cannot change people. Adults, that is. You somehow think that if you stress enough, or that because the way you feel is justified, somehow you are entitled to them having to change for you. Forget about even you sometimes. You just think and hope that somehow, someday those people will change. For your peace of mind. Or for the greater good.
Fact is though, that that is never going to happen. I'm convinced that "never say never" is not even an option here. Not by a long shot. People will continue to be what they are and who they are. They will continue being how they are to you, and with you. Trying to change that, or thinking that somehow you can, is a complete waste of time and energy - both of which are rather precious resources better spent on yourself instead. People in general are too egoistic or self-centred (apologize for the cynical stand here) to change for anyone.
Not liking that or them because of that, is totally and completely only your problem.
Fact is though, that that is never going to happen. I'm convinced that "never say never" is not even an option here. Not by a long shot. People will continue to be what they are and who they are. They will continue being how they are to you, and with you. Trying to change that, or thinking that somehow you can, is a complete waste of time and energy - both of which are rather precious resources better spent on yourself instead. People in general are too egoistic or self-centred (apologize for the cynical stand here) to change for anyone.
Not liking that or them because of that, is totally and completely only your problem.
1 comment:
People will change only with their own experiences and if they want to:-) Though I know of some Indian arranged marriages where the parents hope that some how the institution will change their younger ones. Almost like its rehab!
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